About a month ago I met a guy at JR’s. KD was cute and seemed nice enough, so we exchanged numbers. I didn’t put too much anticipation into it because he lives in Arlington and works at the cosmetics counter at Macy’s. Nothing wrong with that, but two signs we may not be the best match. At least a date, though, and maybe a new friend.
Since then, we’ve exchanged a lot of text messages, in which KD is often very sweet, but no calls or text messages about actual plans, other than a message pretty much every Sunday asking me if I’m going to JR’s. I’ve been too busy to go much lately on Sundays, so we haven’t been able to connect. I don’t quite get his desire to meet up again at JR’s on Sunday – it’s not exactly a place I would take someone to get to know them on a first date.
Last night, he messaged again asking if I was headed to JRs. I felt like being snarky and replying with something like “instead of msging every Sunday about JR’s why don’t you call and ask me to dinner”. I thought better of it, though, and replied asking him to call me if he wanted to go to dinner this week. Tonight, he messaged again. Here is the whole series of messages:
KD: evenin
Me: Hey whats up?
KD: not much at the moment. decidin what to eat. how about u?
Me: on the efx at the gym
KD: and after?
Me: shower eat prepare for client mtg i have all day wed thur. u?
KD: u have all day tomor?
Me: during business hours wed and thur
KD: u r free for lunch tomor?
Me: No. the mtg is all day. why dont u call
Okay, seriously. Is the guy dumb? How do you ask someone to lunch when they just said they have a client meeting during business hours all day. And, what is with this back-and-forth agony over finding a time for a date? I love text messaging, but if you’re going to use it to set-up a date, the message should go something like this:
Person A: hey, how about dinner thursday night at duplex diner at 8
Person B: sounds, good, meet you there at 8
If setting up a date requires more than that, send an e-mail or (gasp) call the person!
I’m a little torn about this because I don’t want to be out of touch with the Gen Y’ers and seem like I dislike text messaging. There are just certain things that annoy me about it – like don’t waste my time with 10,000,000 messages throughout an entire evening when you can use your little index finger to push some buttons and actually be talking to me.
