I had an IM conversation with a friend tonight that was about the most depressing discussion of dating in DC ever. Read on…
[20:19] Friend: it is so easy to hook up out of town
[20:20] Friend: and almost impossible for me in DC
[20:20] Me: really?
[20:20] Me: why not in DC
[20:20] Friend: but i think i am just not even open to it in DC
[20:20] Friend: cause of working at [excised]
[20:20] Friend: and what people would say
[20:20] Friend: blah blah blah….but it is true
[20:20] Friend: i mean if i find a guy i like
[20:20] Friend: here
[20:20] Friend: i’ll go with it
[20:21] Friend: but i think i am so closed off to the idea…i just make it really hard for it to happen
[20:21] Me: well im sure there’s hope
[20:22] Friend: well
[20:22] Friend: maybe in another city!
[20:22] Friend: LOL
[20:22] Me: ha
[20:22] Friend: boys here are not really into dating
[20:23] Friend: it really is either hooking up
[20:23] Friend: or they just are not ready for it
[20:23] Me: see you’ve given up
[20:23] Me: !
[20:23] Me: some ppl want to date
[20:23] Friend: i think there may be some
[20:23] Friend: !
[20:23] Me: it’s just finding them
[20:24] Friend: yep
[20:24] Me: they must hide somewhere special
[20:24] Friend: impossible
[20:24] Friend: well…i just don’t even know how two people can actually come together and enjoy being with each other
[20:24] Friend: it just seems impossible
[20:24] Me: wait
[20:25] Friend: i just cannot imagine meeting someone that i could be with
[20:25] Me: this is a sad statement: “i just don’t even know how two people can actually come together and enjoy being with each other”
[20:25] Me: why not?
[20:25] Me: no one good enough 
[20:25] Friend: no i don’t think that is it
[20:25] Friend: i just find that people i seem to enjoy don’t enjoy me
[20:26] Me: ahhhh
[20:26] Friend: and people that enjoy me i don’t really enjoy them in that same way
[20:26] Me: yea i feel that way too
[20:26] Me: ditto
[20:26] Friend: so it just seems impossible that the two ever come together
[20:26] Me: well, there’s someone out there
[20:27] Friend: well…i am trying to get to the point where i am ok if that doesn’t happen
[20:27] Me: what!?!
[20:27] Me: omg
[20:27] Friend: and DC is a great teacher
[20:27] Me: remind me not to make you my therapist
[20:27] Friend: LOL
[20:27] Friend: what???
[20:28] Friend: why is that a bad goal?
[20:28] Friend: so i focus on the things i do have in my life
[20:28] Friend: family
[20:28] Friend: friends
[20:28] Me: well, love and affection and commitment is something i want
[20:28] Friend: well i can love my family and friends
[20:29] Me: true
[20:29] Friend: you have no idea how much I think i want to be with someone
[20:29] Friend: and i think it is more motivated by fear
[20:29] Friend: fear of being alone
[20:29] Friend: and i want to get rid of that
[20:30] Me: by getting rid of the fear?
[20:30] Friend: well if i can get to the point where i am ok saying…i am going to be alone
[20:30] Friend: and be ok with that
[20:30] Friend: i think i’ll be in a better spot to actually really love someone
[20:31] Friend: so in some ways even though i really want to be with someone
[20:31] Friend: i am not always sure i am ready
[20:31] Friend: i love this
[20:33] Me: lol
[20:33] Me: ok
[20:33] Me: so if ur ok w/ being alone, maybe something will just happen when you dont expect it
[20:33] Friend: yep
[20:34] Friend: and i don’t freak out about them not calling me for 2-3 days
[20:34] Friend: i’ll just be more stable about it
<sigh>
